I’m very excited to write my first blog post on this very important subject that I’ve been grappling with for years. After I turned 40, I began to notice that society was sending me a new message about what I needed to focus on, mainly my wrinkles. One or two were okay, as long as they were slight and only appeared when I showed expression. The ones that became more deeply etched and prominent were cause for extreme alarm, a call for action. I began to find myself spending more and more time and money on expensive wrinkle creams, facials, skin treatments and avoiding the sun altogether. I felt a sense that something terrible was on the horizon — that I would look worn and weary, and worse yet, would become invisible to the opposite sex.
As a former TV news reporter, I was used to being in front of the camera, wrinkle-free, now I was wondering what were my options. That is how the idea for a film developed. I scoured the internet, journals, books and TV looking for some kind of answers. Maybe other women were feeling this way. To my horror, what I kept seeing plastered all over the media were images of young women armed with anti-aging lotions, older women getting Botox, laser treatments, cosmetic procedures, chin lifts, eye lifts, butt lifts, boob enhancements and fat removal from every part of their face and body. Was this the answer? I needed to find out, so I began on the journey of producing my own documentary. On this discovery mission, I’m asking women in their middle years what they are feeling, experiencing or dreading. I too explore the possibilities of Botox, cosmetic procedures and hours at the gym. Is there anything wrong with a little this-or-that? What do men think? What are plastic surgeons promising us? Are women buying into the message that they are less valuable because they are losing their youthful appearance? Are they happier spending exorbenent amounts of time and money to keep their face and bodies tight, toned and lifted?
I hope you will follow me on this journey — become a part of the dialogue. I welcome you to express your feelings about becoming an older woman in America. The documentary is called New Wrinkle and is currently in production. This blog is for everyone who wants a voice in a media too focused on turning back the clock. It’s time to evolve into a new paradigm, one in which all women are valued, even the ones with the wrinkles.